Our Hard Times

The way we got together seems magical and automatic. However, things weren’t always smooth. We faced a lot of difficulties. Till now, we have been together for quite some time but difficulties are still there and incoming. Let me share with you 4 of them. I’m sure you can definitely relate to most of them as you may just be experiencing them right now.


1. Distance

In the month of December 2014, we had another meet up which we regarded it as our first official date. It was the last meet up of the year. I was going back to Singapore for my second year of High School which means I would be even further from her physically. For all lovers, being separated apart in different cities or countries is tough. Long distance relationship to be honest is really tough but it has its benefits as well.

Read this: 14 Benefits Of A Long Distance Relationship: The Most Complete List From My Own Experience

For us, got together just for a few weeks, separating miles away from each other made us a bit scared as we had not known each other fully and the level of trust was still not there. Fortunately, as the time passed by, we are not afraid at all about separating now as we understand each other fully and have complete trust which is a very very very important component of long distance relationship.

Read this: How To Build Trust In A Long Distance Relationship? Part 1: The Golden Rules


2. My Parents’ Disapproval

Another major problem we faced and are facing now is the strong disapproval by my parent. Although they allowed us to meet up at the start, once they knew we got together, they were so angry. I had no choice. I couldn’t hide the fact that we got together or else I couldn’t even go and find her. But I can understand why they are so angry. After all, I just met her for a few days and she is 10 years older than me. It is absolutely normal for them to be so worried about me. They thought it was not going to work out between us given the age gap and the long distance. I know they love me and want to protect me. But I couldn’t help. I had a strong feeling to follow my own intuition – that is to give it a try on this relationship. So quarrels between me and my parents were unavoidable. Until now, my parents had banned me from meeting her totally.

Very fortunately, my girlfriend’s mother is very supportive. She has confidence in us which I’m really thankful. She gives me the confidence and motivation to move on. Another motivation that is pushing me is the desire to proof to my parents and those unsupportive people that we can do it.


3. Judgments From Friends’ & Family Members’

Most of the elder people in my family or my parents’ friends don’t have much faith in my relationship as well once they heard she is 10 years older than me. This cannot blame them as it’s a common concepts for elders to think that in a relationship the girl must be younger than the boy. My dad even told me specifically that it’s best if your wife is 4 years younger than you. What I could say it that the era has changed. Long distance and cougar love (the relationship where the girl is older than the guy) is no longer a hindrance.

What some of the other elder family members did was indirectly convincing me via Facebook that this is not the right relationship for me. Fortunately, my friends who are around the same age do support me. Thanks to them!


4. Financial Issue

I’m just a high school graduate currently serving national service. So definitely I’m not financially independent to marry and build a family with her yet. What then makes her, a 29-year-old lady, to have so much love and trust in me? For her, she is still building her own career and not financially stable yet. Even though we are so eager to start getting married and build our own family, the major money issue is still there.

The answer is throughout my website. You will find insights here. So, feel free to navigate your way around my website 🙂


Your Instant Takeaway

(This part is the same as the last part of My Story page)

I hope you enjoy reading my story, whether it is just the summary or the full story. There are a lot of takeaways for you throughout the story. If you have not clicked the links to the different blog posts to learn the tips and insights, I recommend you to do it right now. You will not regret. This is for those who have clicked through to read my full story.

Don’t forget, it’s your life.

Don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. ~Steve Jobs

Regardless of all the tips, the most important thing is to follow your own intuition. Feel it yourself from your heart.

Your relationship success is our mission. Feel free to contact me (via E-mail or comment below) for any questions or doubts you may have. I’m more than willing and I’ll do my best to help you.

All my best to your relationship success!

Email: talktous@longdistancementors.com



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